Have You EVER Wondered WHY You Can NEVER finish whatever you have set out to start?

It’s probably fair to say that we all have thoughts like this in one way or another.

Unless you are Usain Bolt of course.

He starts slow and ALWAYS finishes FASTER than the rest and wins.

But we are not Usain Bolt – I know I certainly am not.

You see although we are all very different, we all still have very similar behavioural patterns.

Quite simply put…

We either RESPOND or we REACT!

It’s called being human… or not (more about that below)

If I was to talk about me for a second.

The amount of programmes I’ve started to create and not finished for various reasons.

This is mainly because it’s not what I really wanted.

Even though it sounded great at the time.

I bet you’ve ordered the biggest and best looking dish in a restaurant only to realise your eyes were bigger than your belly.

Hey don’t worry.

Again – yes I’ve done that.

But I’m not talking about food in this email, not entirely.

Today I’m going to share a conversation I had with a client.

Let’s call him Graham.

This time last year Graham was flying on his health and fitness journey.

Everything was going great.

Work, relationships, his belt was getting looser and he was getting noticed for his efforts in the gym.

He LOVED that.

BUT…

Then life decided to do it’s thing.

You know what I mean…

Stuff happens, and before you know it, your once razor like focus has disappeared.

You skip a gym session.

That then becomes two.

It’s then a week… I’ll start back Monday.

Then it’s Christmas and you are too busy to look after yourself.

This all tends to then result in those foods you associate with as bad or naughty slipping in.

Just like the gym…

..It’s one, then two.

Oh I’ll get back on the diet Monday.

I’m sure you know what I mean, it happens to us all.

And before you know you are back to square one.

Or so you THINK you are.

And you find it REALLY difficult to find that MOTIVATION and ENERGY to get back to where you once were.

You remember where you were and where you are now.

The mirror doesn’t lie and to be honest you don’t like it and feel ashamed.

You’re in that place where whatever you try, it just doesn’t work.

You feel:

 

• ANGRY
• DEPRESSED
• NEGATIVE
• And Ultimately LOST!!

 

So…

You GIVE UP!!

You call yourself a FAILURE.

It’s happening as we speak.

We have a nation going around and around in circles getting STRESSED about being STRESSED.

They are too BUSY, being BUSY!

They forget who they are and who they want to be.

This pretty much is what’s happening to Graham.

It’s not all DOOM and GLOOM though.

No…

His business is BOOMING!

But!

The knock on affect is that it’s messing up with his health and fitness goals.

And possibly his relationships.

A busy man is often a STRESSFUL man and a stressful man is often a REACTIVE man.

A reactive man is not the man he wants to be and often SAYS and performs ACTIONS he possibly regrets.

Makes you think – is being BUSY that great after all?

Again…

..We all get like this.

I have FULL compassion.

So what’s the answer?

Well there are many, but it’s not my place to provide that as such. That approach never works.

Long-term.

The best ANSWERS are those that live deep inside within.

But…

What I can do though is:

• SUPPORT
• GUIDE
• Provide FOCUS
• Help you gain CLARITY.

But you know as they say…

You can only guide the horse to the water…

But in these situations, I like to take that perspective that I’m 30,000ft in the air looking down on the big bad world.

I’m not ‘IN’ their life and I need to get crystal clear first so I may ask these questions to DEFINE the situation…

“Who do you want to be during this challenging period?”

“How do you want to ‘show up’ to the world?”

“Why is this important to you?”

Now as good as it is to get the answers to these powerful questions, people often get STUCK on what they actually want.

So if we REFINE what they DON’T want, we have a lot less fog to clear away.

So ask yourself these questions…

“How DON’T you want to show up to the world?”

“Why is that important to you?”

With that in mind, “what can you do to CREATE a more balanced life, CREATING more fulfilment, and a HEALTHY lifestyle while you’re being challenged right now?”

And my NUMBER ONE tip here is the following:

Answer these questions with HONESTY and the TRUTH will set you free.

It WORKS!

>>>> If you let it out <<<<

When you can face ACCEPTANCE in your life, and understand whatever your story is, you can from this point forward change THAT story.

What has happened in the past may not be your fault, but it certainly is your problem.

ACTION and ACCOUNTABILITY from yourself is what moves us from the dark and into the light.

This is why I am now a huge believer that exercise and nutrition plans just don’t work.

Yes they might for a bit.

But they’ll come undone at some point.

Now what if there was a way to make exercise and nutrition plans UNSHAKEABLE??

Well, I have the answer.

Mindset – YEP, that mystical ‘M’ word again.

Keeps popping up in these emails now doesn’t it?

Mindset is the KEY for me now which is why I have added a Coaching element into my approach.

It’s one of the reasons why my INNER CIRCLE members are THRIVING rather than SURVIVING more than EVER.

Because most people know HOW to exercise and eat a bit better, right?

Do you agree?

If money was your objective then you could buy a book for £20 with all the answers you’ll ever need from Amazon.

But that’s not the answer, is it?

Most don’t understand why they do-what-they-do and WHY they don’t-do-what they SHOULD do or WANT to do.

The truth is that people more often or not, know what to do – but WHY the hell can’t they do it?

The ANSWER is always SIMPLE when you ask the right QUESTION.

That’s what I do here at Phil Sims Transformational Coaching.

I make complicated processes SIMPLER to get the best out of each and every one of us.

When we FIRE up the MINDSET, we WIRE up the CHOICES we make, and the ACTIONS we take, to help INFLUENCE the life we WANT to CREATE.

Well…

If what Graham is going through resonates with you in anyway or you just want to simply learn more about how Coaching can help break you free from your worries of the world…

Then hit me up with an email.

Until then…

Stay focused.