The ABCD’s of Negative Self-Talk…

As we go about our daily lives, many of us can be our worst own enemies.

I mean this happens to me all of the time and I guess this is the case with you too, right?

I’m talking about those moments where our own personal life-compass starts moving us away from where we actually want to be going.

Which results you in living in that area of that dreaded NEGATIVE SELF-TALK which has that nasty habit of creeping back up on you if you use internal bad language.

That area where you constantly tell yourselves that you can’t accomplish your goals or that your efforts are just not good enough.

Now the four most common forms of negative talk are what I call the ABCD’s of Negativity.

 

ANGER

This often manifests as frustration, aggression or outright physical rage and relates to when something is being taken away from you or you are being held back from having something you want.

BLAME 

Whether you are blaming yourself or others the responsibility always comes down to ourselves. But quite often or not we cannot be honest with ourselves to own up so we immediately go into a reactive state and blame a thing or someone to justify why we havent achieved something or met those expectation we have created ourselves.

CRITICISM

We are our own worst critics, right? How many times have you told yourself you are not good enough? Well the truth is we are normally good enough but we are not doing enough of what we already know.

DESPAIR

When we don’t get what we want or we cannot get clear of how to get it then the next next we normally take is to give up, go into depair, get despondent and possibly mild depression.

When was the last time you tried a new diet only to go through the above and end up at despair and give up and lose all hope. Until the next time…

We are the CREATOR of our own DESTINY.

The dreams that you create in life will become ERODED by these forms of feelings that you create internally.

And this erosion will eat away at your HAPPINESS.

Now this probably sounds all doom and gloomy, right?

Stick with me as I’m going to tell you how you can get away from this negative b*llocks!!

Quite often or not these negative thoughts are caused by people creating UNREALISTIC expectations.

Or they set objectives that aren’t really TRULY important to their lives.

This happens when people start setting goals that are actually someone else’s.

Come on be honest – how many times have you opened up Facebook to see someone doing well and you start thinking you want that too?

Hey there is nothing wrong with that!!

But the problem is that people have not gone through the RIGHT process to make that THEIR goal too.

You see people have to ALIGN their VALUES with their GOAL.

This ultimately means that both have to become CONGRUENT to what is important to you.

Another thing is that when people create goals they don’t cement it.

They DO NOT own it.

Here’s a GREAT quote:

‘A short pencil is better than a long memory’

Now what I mean by this is that many of our goals are running around loosely in our heads, but when we WRITE them down then we CRYSTALIZE them!

We OWN them!

Now you may be thinking that you do this already.

So if you have wrote them down then how many of you have them on you right now?

I bet you don’t…

Well – the message I am creating here is that people never REALLY do the necessary work beforehand.

And this is partly the reason why people are running around beating themselves up internally.

They are falling into that trap of the ABCD theory I’ve mentioned above.

Now I get these moments of self-doubt myself – and when I find my life moving away from the goals I have aligned with my personal life-compass, I refer back to the techniques I have researched which are now in my MINDSET MASTERY PROGRAMME.

So…

Has this got a few cogs ticking?